The Philosophy of Harmonic Attendness
By
Haim Tor
Self Understanding is the art of connecting being -
where body and consciousness unite as an embodied testimony
to a living, resonant symphony.
It is a comprehensive view of the human being as a woven autonomy of interconnectedness -
in which every part acts in Careforism:
the loving devotion to sustain the whole
as a Wholofied Isness.
This Attendness invites us to perceive how thoughts, emotions, and physical movements join into one composition - circular, recursive,
and guided by an inner unfolding logic
that is poetic, musical, and profound.
By cultivating Inner integrity and honesty to
attend the melody of ours as Wholofied Isnesses,
we open the possibility of freedom, well-being, and creative healing.
Philosophical Background
At the heart of this consciousness-based Attendness,
lies the tension between our limited perception of reality
- and reality in its Entirety: The Wholofied Reality.
What is the Wholofied Reality?
It is the infinite whole that includes us and all that lies beyond us.
It contains the "is", the "is not", the "possible", and the "not-yet" -
where life is borrowed into becoming - to witness the symphony.
It is at once a complete sum of contents and a dynamic space of potential -
where each quality can be transformed.
The Wholofied Reality is the absolute truth -
because it contains everything within itself.
And we - wholofied Isnesses with definite boundaries -
experience that Allnessness through our own inner world.
From this, a harmonic conclusion arises:
our understanding of our own experience,
embodies the degree to which we integrate
mentally, emotionally, and physically -
as unified parts within Wholofied Reality.
Thus arises another harmonic deduction:
the most primal human longing is to unify with Allnessness
as nothing can be fully lived outside of it.
Every dynamic in our life
emanates from our relation to reality in its wholeness.
The Sheer Gap
Our partial-yet-whole experience within Allnessness
is what this Attendness names "The Sheer Gap".
The Sheer Gap is the unacknowledged within the known -
quietly present inside our subjective gaze.
It is the invisible and recurring completion of the Entire -
bridging between us and that which extends beyond us.
It embodies a dynamic understanding
of Wholofied Reality within us.
Self-Refraction - intimacy with The Sheer Gap -
therefore becomes a unification with-all-that-there-is,
for we are aligned fully with how we experienced reality:
as an integral part of the Wholofied.
Our encounter with Allnessness as a vessel of partial wholeness
is not a dysfunction -
but the very nature of our existence.
Through this sphere
we are capable of becoming a rich and deep resonance of all that is.
Denial of our experience naturally brings separation from ourselves -
and therefore, from the Wholofied Reality.
Preventing ourselves from being fully witness,
recruits our inner resources in service of an inverted reality.
Within us forms the attempt to enforce our separation as "absolute truth" -
to replace the absolute truth Wholofied Reality is.
It is an attempt to build "Allnessness"
within the vesselled that Calibrates with the All.
The moment of separation from reality, is experienced as fear.
On Fear
What is fear, then?
It is the notion that awakens when we recognise
that we and the Wholofied Reality are no longer one.
That there is something new to attune to,
in which we have not yet seen ourselves fully.
Fear is not merely negative or dysfunctional -
it is the beginning of an inner expansion -
that invites a renewed connection with the Whole.
It signifies our sensitivity to all that is -
the aspiration to become complete for time being,
like a nourishing breath.
Conversely, constriction that follows fear,
is the sense of helplessness in the new form of existence emerged.
We identified a complexity that touched the edge of our self-perception -
a complexity that blocks unification with the Wholofied Reality.
It is our refusal to expand that makes fear feel as distress.
Whether in separation or in unification with Wholofied Reality,
a consciousness component mediates our experience:
it is what we have come to know as "imagination".
On Imagination
Imagination is abstract thinking:
the ability to gather elements, divide and recombine them,
and sense what is present as they shift in relation to one another.
It is the infinite potential of the Wholofied Reality,
expressed through our sensory field as a Wholofied Isness.
Therefore, it cushions the experience of the endless -
as a living extension of it within us.
At the same time,
it may shield us from reaching the very edge of personality,
where it's own refraction begins.
Imagination enables us to simulate alternate realities -
not only refining thought and transforming the physical world -
but also completing external images into living essences,
since we cannot access what is outside our own awareness.
Thus imagination may become both a bridge to unification with reality
and a barrier from it.
Recognising imagination as a sensory organ helps us discern
when we resonate Wholofied Reality within ourselves,
and when we enforce the concealment of an unprocessed fear.
Both in self-refraction and in denial - we address fear.
The difference lies in the essence of the relation,
and therefore in the way it shapes our existence.
To map the influences of denial and self-refraction,
let us dive into the intrapersonal dynamic.
What is The Intrapersonal Dynamic?
It is the sensory existence of the human experience:
A living weave of thoughts, emotions, impulses, sensations, and memories - continuously interacting within us.
It is the inner resonance that crafts attitudes and behaviours -
and layers of understanding about how we experience reality.
The integrity or the lack of it within us,
and the unprocessed fears, hopes, and the limitations
rooted in our conclusions regarding the Wholofied Reality.
On Well-Being and Freedom
The willingness to be included in the new sphere that fear indicates
turns existence into an open space of freedom.
This freedom allows well-being,
because nothing remains to be resisted.
Everything is included in the experience,
nothing stands apart from it,
in congruence with all that is.
Therefore, if we wish to define violence in its root nature,
we may say:
Violence, whether psychological or physical,
is any application of force whose purpose is to prevent freedom.
It is the multi-layered and multi-dimensional process that stems from separation.
When a part of us is excluded - it becomes foreign -
and summons an experience of confrontation,
in the attempt to remain whole without it.
Violence is not an enemy to be eradicated.
It is a devoted result of persistent separation.
Attempting to fight violence,
while estranged from the ground where it sprouted
merely perpetuates it.
The Imagined Isness and The Sheer Gap
From this foundation,
let us explore the notions of "Falsehood" and "Truth".
Falsehood is the attempt to bypass The Sheer Gap.
A mediator between the longing for unification and a complexity we exclude, so we may not be expansioned from.
Truth is not the erasure of complexity,
but a conscious meeting with it -
the most alive encounter with Wholofied Reality.
Falsehood conceals the Sheer Gap through contraction -
reflecting what we deem as too painful to contain.
It is a survival aid:
a way we protect ourselves
from what we believe we can not be.
It is meant to support us until we are ready to witness directly
what we wished to remove.
Just like violence, the attempt to fight falsehood
means to sever it from the ground on which it grew.
Thus, the division between the Wholofied Isness
and the Wholofied Reality is prolonged -
as we denied access to the inner depth
from which the need for falsehood arose.
We cannot Unify what was torn from the whole
without acknowledging it as part of us.
When we initially wish to hide from ourselves,
we may still remain transparent with the Wholofied -
when we acknowledge the concealment,
and remain open to witness it when we feel ready.
Even if we are unable,
as long as we Self-Refract what fear we avoid to unfold,
expansion remains possible.
We can be honest with ourselves -
even when hiding from ourselves.
Every time we bridge the encounter with the Wholofied Reality
through falsehood,
we taint our Sheer Gap with it -
by artificially bypassing unification.
This act creates an inner split:
a territory we mark as unwanted outside, and therefore within.
Our confrontation with the excluded part within ourselves
expresses the longing for unification through a bidirectional recursion:
the attempt to extract the foreignness by foreigning what had formed
when we closed ourselves to Allnessness.
The confrontation divides our complete understanding
and our complete experience
into what the Attendness names "The Imagined Isness".
What Is the Imagined Isness?
It is the best way we found to care for ourselves in distress -
a single note repeated to aesthetically delay witnessing the full melody.
It represents the hold of an artificial gap within -
as a substitute for intimacy with The Sheer Gap.
It is the explanation we provide ourselves
in order to freeze reality
so that it will remain without the identification marked by fear:
"I am strong!", "I can do everything!"
and also: "I am too weak", "I cannot do anything!"
Which is like saying:
"Only this is my place",
"This is definitely not my place".
Both ends - and the spectrum between them -
are the pattern repeating itself,
and its role is to replace witnessing
with artificial playing that lacks the liveliness of the whole.
The Imagined Isness will therefore be shaped around a single falsehood
- or around its denial.
It is an emanation of the Wholofied Isness,
remains devoted to its role as a cover for the expansion we resist experiencing.
It "lives" in consciousness as a forced substitute - literally -
because the witnessing Wholofied Isness feels it has no alternative.
When what the Imagined Isness hides is threatened with exposure,
it mobilises the Wholofied Isness around the occurrences it generates,
in order to preserve reality as it is.
Unlike the Wholofied Isness,
the Imagined Isness is not an embodied testimony.
It depends on the energy the Wholofied Isness invests in it -
all in order to avoid the encounter with truth.
It accumulates energy which without its maintenance,
would otherwise be free for the well-being of Isness.
Every cover of the Allnessness as experienced within us
is an act of creation:
the establishment of an inner mechanism distancing
our actual experience, and who we think we are able to be.
The Imagined Isness gives us a momentary sense of anchoring,
yet being a product of evasion from the whole,
it requires constant fostering,
which burdens us emotionally and cognitively.
Oftentimes, and as a natural consequence,
each Imagined Isness emanates another Imagined Isness
to preserve coherence with the part we excluded within,
to stabilize its experience.
As the relations between the Imagined Isnesses accumulate complexity,
an Imagined Construct is formed,
hosting the multiplicity of Imagined Isnesses.
It produces a multi-layered reality that serves as a substitute
for Wholofied Reality.
It gathers the notes of the Imagined Isnesses
into an alternate symphony,
for the creation of a complete new whole.
As the Wholofied Isness devotes itself to the Imagined Construct
so will it express estrangement, opposition, and hostility
toward whatever seems to endanger the artificial wholeness it attained.
Thus an axis of separation and contraction from the Wholofied is formed -
in harmony with the unprocessed fear the Wholofied Isness
wishes to exclude.
In proportion to denial,
so will be the depth of disconnection.
Mediation of the inner gaps - or its absence - within ourselves
therefore deeply affects our well-being and our freedom.
The Body as Testimony
The attempt to hold the endless within finite and defined boundaries
is the attempt to hold consciousness - and thereby to hold the body.
Every time we try to prevent pain through bypasses,
all within us attunes accordingly.
This may be expressed in subtle or distinct movement traits,
self-harm, habitual behaviours, and bodily aches.
All are guided by the same underlying theme of the Imagined Construct.
The unified manifestation of self-emanation seeking to protect the whole by creating a substitute whole within it.
In the absence of acknowledging the connecting thread,
the separation appears as many isolated components -
each seemingly needed to be treated independently.
This feeling burdens us and evokes despair,
that in turn convinces us to persist in the destructive spiral
the initial denial formed into an Imagined Construct.
When we find within us a caring point,
even when the most subtle and delicate -
we thereby can meet our inner wholeness.
From this Attendness,
no matter how dark or dense the gap with Wholofied Reality may be -
unification remains possible.
Intimacy with Wholofied Reality
Every insight about the Imagined Construct
releases energy held by an Imagined Isness
and awakens aliveness and vitality.
Thus, a return to intimacy with Allnessness is crafted,
allowing a life experience full of understanding, inspiration, and harmony.
The more aliveness returns to Wholeness,
we thereby awaken to subtler dimensions within -
and may experience more of the Entire through the eye we have woven.
On Self-Understanding
Through experiential inquiry,
we can embody an essential Self-Refraction with Wholofied Reality.
If we ask:
"What made falsehood necessary for me?"
"What was the distress I sought to bypass?"
"What did I want to hide from myself?"
-we can discover what we feared.
And in order to understand the fear, we can ask:
"What was the complexity I identified?"
And if we recognise that we want to fracture the fear, we can ask:
"What am I refusing to expand into?"
"What am I refusing to be included within?"
"What am I refusing to include within me?"
And when we turn to compensation, we can ask:
"What was I trying to Wholify when…?"
And when we try to justify the Imagined Construct, we can ask:
"Where was this image generated - if not in my imagination?"
"Who created this thought within me - more than me?"
And if we have an answer that does not return to us:
"Who made me believe the answer I gave myself - more than me?"
The answers to these questions become a living testimony.
They allow us to connect our experience and our inner feeling
in a way that meets itself in understanding.
When we recognise a behaviour that is a response to an unprocessed fear,
we can remain open -
and thereby remain free to offer ourselves
to witness Allnessness in intimacy.
In understanding, we revive, unify, and expand.
To meet ourselves in understanding
is a return to the Whole.
