Why is it that whenever there is resistance within conflict -

pain always comes with it?

 

Resistance is a behavior with the nature of reaction.

 

For it to exist, there must first be a phenomenon we’ve recognised.

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After recognition,

we label it as "desirable" or "undesirable" -

and from that labeling, a dynamic emerges.

 

That dynamic is what we call conflict.

 

Resistance is a pre-assigned role within the structure of the conflict -

a part that must be played for the conflict to exist as it does.

 

To resist,

someone or something must fill an aesthetic slot

in the patterned framework of the conflict.

 

This creates the impression that the pattern itself carries meaning.

 

The "value" of resistance

is a value that serves the construct

through an imagined contrast -

one that grants validity to its constructed reality.

 

Thus, the structure sustains itself as a separate unit,

enclosing and drawing in all that engages with it,

creating the impression that the conflict is all there is.

 

This unfolds on every scale -

from the innermost psyche to nations and worlds.

 

But wait:

does this mean that if we don’t resist,

we’ll remain powerless before the harm

that triggered our resistance in the first place?

 

Not quite.

 

That conclusion itself is born from the same impulse

that made us want to resist.

 

And so, we persuade ourselves

to keep the loop alive.

 

Conflict can only exist

when there are at least two rigid, separated forces.

 

When we are "in a fight",

we are trying to subdue a movement

that we ourselves have alienated.

 

As long as we persist this alienation,

the structure of conflict will keep proving to us

that the alienation is real,

and that control has meaning.

 

This is not a side effect -

it is the purpose of the structure:

to justify the struggle.

 

If we return to the prism through which we first inferred alienation,

we can recognise a fractured fear we have not yet addressed.

 

We may discover that what we perceived as "other"

is simply what we resisted meeting with understanding -

and therefore created a bypass around.

 

Fear is an internal signal

of a gap between ourselves and reality.

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It is evidence of our sensitivity to the complexity of existence.

 

It is, in fact, the way we invite ourselves

to bridge the gap we recognised -

through inner expansion

and renewed connection to what we once called "reality".

 

To deny what we have recognised

is to distance ourselves from ourselves -

for we mark what we have seen within us

as something to avoid,

and thus as the boundary of our being.

 

Hence arises inner division:

we have denied a whole aspect of our own experience -

and split away from it.

 

The willingness to meet with understanding

what we have denied

heals the split.

 

What felt foreign becomes connected -

and there is no longer an "external" opponent to fight.

 

Understanding why something was born

dissolves it back into the infinite potential of being.

 

What remains

is the living experience beyond conflict.

 

What is beautiful here

is that this dynamic can be verified within ourselves

through inner integrity.

 

We can sense, when fear arises,

whether we are relating to it as expanding witnesses -

or reacting through resistance, denial, and avoidance.

 

Thus, we gain a transparent map

of how pain unfolds -

or how well-being and freedom are restored -

through an integrative, healing understanding.

 

And what’s even more beautiful:

what once felt unbearable,

what seemed like an endless struggle

spawning infinite complexity -

was, in truth, only a response

to an unacknowledged gap.